Nuh uh.

I watched the Truman Show, too. What they don’t show is when he leaves one sim, he exits into the adjacent flat surface.

FS may be under significant stress. But they are also telling stories with unadulterated disdain and toxin. Stories that, if discovered by the individuals, would cause serious harm to well… Their whole family.

This isn’t the place, I wouldn’t think, to vent ones toxins. But that’s what’s happened here, and to a sympathetic, accepting audience.

Someone was going to have enough with the toxin. Enough with the idea that mom isn’t good enough while trying to be helpful.

Ive been through shit too. The people around me were going through it too. Compassion was in order on all sides.

Edit: I understand that my message isn’t the most delightful, but the down votes further indicate: lemmy has a maturity issue.

Getting care at one of the best medical institutions (despite imperfections, and yes doctors are people too) at moms expense of money, time, and emotional work. And the issue is that she’s just entirely annoying. C’mon.

I get it. But it’s the price of admission or stay home. If these threads make it to mom, it’s a problem. And it’s immortalized on the internet.

Any troll could f this up. It. Is. Immature. Fool hardy. And it’s being given a welcoming platform.

I get that the resolution was not satisfying, but there was very little gratitude in those posts. He’s not the only person on this ride.

Thank you. This whole thing was toxic days ago.

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Now it’s using AI. Often.

Raped, I think. Some of both, but those numbers aren’t the result of consensual acts.

PE(MD)(AS)?

What I think I’m hearing is there are “2” kinds of people, those who know they’ve fucked up, see it, own it, and remain humble.

And those who aren’t as humble and are, instead, confident and possibly unaware.

There’s more here, though. Calling oneself stupid isn’t humble. It puts the focus on oneself. Keeps it there. The occasional flitter that swings and reminds us that we’re all just trying… Cool. Dwelling? Less cool.

I’m not talking about a continuum. I’m talking about leaving the “stupid” line and being less focused on that. And more focused on being decent, virtuous and not a chump, all at the same time.

Also, some “confident” people are very self aware and aware of their inadequacies as they see them. They just don’t let that stop them from engaging. In short, all may not be as it appears.

Good question and maybe kind of brave to ask. Regardless, props for asking a very human, deeper question.

I don’t have this figured out, but below are some of the things that help me. Many are free, or close.

Meditations. I used guided for a while and now if I know I need to slow down, I’ll pause and meditate for a minute or so. It took a while to build the quicker slowdown, but it’s often available to me.

Stoic philosophy. This isn’t stoicism in the classic sense. It’s about learning what matters, what you can control, and learning that that’s just about all you can do. Extrernal validations are nice, but can’t be expected or relied upon. Sometimes life sucks, but we can change our internal climate (with practice).

Within philosophical stoicism, I think The Subtle Art of not giving a Fuck helped. It may not be seen as stoic philosophy, but it’s a layman’s guy to that very idea. Helpful.

YouTube channels : Mark Manson & Daily Stoic

Other meditations that helped were things like Tara Brach. Kinda woo at times, but her voice and tone slow things down for me and the messages are often relatable. I’m not into manifestations or all that, but an easy, slow, modulated voice gets me. Especially if the message is about self forgiveness.

My wife. So much that. She’s mine and I’m not sharing. But the idea remains. If you have someone supportive, who you also support, it helps.

Strangely, reading the Nauceous Nocturne within the Essential Calvin and Hobbies. I kid you not. Calvin’s in the dark and all these monsters, events and catastrophes emerge in horrible, amusing, cartoonish form. Then? By simply existing and being noticed by a monster, Hobbes scares away the fears. Find a Hobbes. Be a Hobbes. The monsters are often in our head.

Support others. It gets us out of our circles and we see other (sometime worse) life events and we see people endure. Help them endure. Be kind.

Nest egg. If possible, having some amount of back up money in the bank that is there for major life events, even if it’s not enough… It helps. Financial exposure and concern was one of my biggest - no, Is one of my biggest triggers.

Therapy. Did that for a while, got to a better place with CBT and such. Then if I see erosion, I do the above things and if I think I’m losing ground, or that it’s time to gain more, I go back to my therapist for a few months of every other week sessions.

Journaling. I don’t do it often, but it can help slow thoughts, reveal them, and upon rereading show us where we can or could turn the conversation we’re having with oursleves. I see some of my anxiety as self abuse, so I’m trying to learn to be kinder with myself. I’m already, usually, kind (but firm) with others. I just hold myself to these standards that… They’re lofty. I’m a person, too, so I have to give myself permission to be less than perfect.

I’m still learning. I think we all are. Hopefully something in here helps. Am open to dialogue here or otherwise. Regardless, anxiety sucks and I hope you find what works for you, chips away at it, and find a steadier emotional life. That roller coaster isn’t fun.

Edit: Walks also help. More so if nature is involved.

Fwiw: other than insults and a mod’s implied threat… The conversation looked like it had potential and that both of you were making relevanct, fact-based points.

Issue was that there was a low key combativeness throughout and I’m not sure why that was necessary. I see that a lot online, but I think I see it more here than anywhere else.

I’ve wondered if it’s just easy to feel like a big fish in this medium sized pond and then embarrass ourselves when we meet a fish of approximately equal size.

Having said all the above. I slip into combative too. Almost always have regrets later, but it’s super easy to do.

I see this going only a few directions:

• Threads tries and fails
• Threads succeeds, flexes, annexes
• Equilibrium, and Mastodon/Lemmy become the social network APIs that connect across (like I wish we’d had when G+ was a thing)

Meta will be okay making money off lemmy indirectly for a while. Then, if they grow, they’ll want more than a toehold.

When it’s Facebook, trust that greed and power are the goals.

They don’t take risks.

Quibble: Meta took a huge write off because their metaverse didn’t get the reception they hoped.

I think they take risks, just calculated ones. And sometimes… A founders ambition.

"The end is nigh, but not for the reasons you say. "

Example, and this encapsulates MUCH of US politics:

“The rest of mankind who were not killed by these plagues still did not repent of the work of their hands; they did not stop worshiping demons, and idols of gold, silver, bronze, stone and wood–idols that cannot see or hear or walk. Nor did they repent of their murders, their magic arts, their sexual immorality or their thefts.” Revelation 9:20-21

Speaking of ad misfires, South Dakota had their own set of… ideas.

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It’s a network of social media, all using the same protocols, and each tends to have some focus: Canada, Australia, art, communism, and large numbers of members, for example.

I didn’t find federated social media to he hard to understand after the first hour or so. Is that weird?

They can vote third party, democrat, or not vote. But voting Republican, right now, is a pro-fascist, pro-racist, pro-anti-equal rights vote.

Even the “reasonable” Republicans line up to vote party line.

I’m going to be very interested in the terms when/if this Kroger/Albertsons merger goes through.

If it’s a great big giveaway, then I’m over the top livid. They’d be greenlighting a “trust” when they should be busting.

Makes sense. No one is entitled to the labor of others.

Applies here, too.

If no one else is reading this, something is fishy with votes. No… not preoccupied with the vote. Preoccupied with what it may indicate. It is, as you’ve indicated, stale.