I use rdx.overdevs.com to read reddit still as it has a lot more fashion, art and vegan content than here, but the only places I interact online in that way anymore are the Fediverse and Fragrantica, but the latter only really for perfume related stuff.

Feeling like I can fall out of reality and into the backrooms just by taking the wrong corridor or waking up at the wrong hour.

I stacked it on the kerb coming back from the shop the other day and both my knees are now bruised to fuck and have started creaking when I go to stand up. It’s taken my all not to refer to the incident as my having ‘had a fall’ too, for some reason.

I was hoping to at least get past my (current) mid thirties before the knee pain and geriatric language started creeping in.

I wish you all the luck.

Look up trans healthcare rights in the UK. Transphobia is actively being promoted by our government based on shitty unfounded but politically backed science like the Cass report.

And while the UK is probably one of the safest places in the world to be gay, there is still homophobia. If you’re visibly queer and ever have to rely on healthcare services, you will most likely experience it.

Some areas in the UK have drastically better autism and adhd services than others. Like day and night drastically.

From memory, and sorry to direct you back there, Reddit’s UK autism and adhd boards did have some resources on this, and will probably have enough of a user base to be able to give you a good idea of where is currently good or bad.

Cheltenham is probably still really good for both NHS and charity/independent adhd, autism and mental health services for both kids and adults- but my information on the area is now nearly 5 years old, so you will have to look it up for yourself.

And I can only speak for NHS adult adhd, autism and MH services in North London, but they’re next to non existent here and will, from experience, very likely be actively detrimental when you are able to access anything.

Is your kid neurotypical? If so it’s going to be much easier for you to move almost anywhere in the UK.

If not, and/or if you can afford it, look into smaller private schools with lots of extra curricular activities going on. With the smaller class sizes, education and potential for assimilating with peers will be drastically improved for your kid, and you will have a much easier time meeting other parents and forming a community too.

Otherwise state schools with lots of arts and sciences funding are probably your best bet, so look into that, find a good one and try to move to their catchment area.

Also if you or your kid have any mental/health issues, get health insurance. NHS waiting lists are very long and the quality of service is often poor, especially for people in vulnerable situations and for visibly queer/trans/neurodiverse female presenting/bodied folk. Honestly, just get health insurance anyway if you can afford it, it should be cheaper here than in the US at least.

Disclaimer: I’m neither a parent nor an American in the UK, but I am from here and went to a lot of schools as a kid (moved a lot) and I am queer.

Having partners the same height and relative size as you is great as you get to effectively double your wardrobes.

Granted this works best when you both have similar tastes in fashion though.

Does anyone find bitterness and resentment attractive though? Maybe work on that first before you worry about how tall you are.

But getting violent because someone said something mean to you… is?

I don’t get the point you’re trying to make here.

I joined SLRPNK.net shortly before kbin kicked the bucket and I quite like the user interface and customisation options here, even if I don’t comment much these days.

Also as the pessimistic misanthrope doomer I am, I was originally getting a bit of a kick out of how painfully naive and optimistic the hippies here were/are. I just try to ignore it now though tbh as it’s depressing.

Pretty sure Kbin is dead and gone, might want to update your tree.