I was surprised to see someone namedrop Gaia. I still log in daily out of habit.
Honestly I’m in a similar situation. Discord seems to be the way to go, but it’s hard to look past the privacy issues and enshittification. IIRC you can rig up Matrix to work with discord “servers” but I don’t see how that would solve the root problem.
Here’s hoping we’re find a solution.
I never even considered that the name referred to baby boomers I thought it just meant they went “boom”