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  • Broadfern@lemmy.worldtoComic Strips@lemmy.worldFashion
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    10 days ago

    First one is cool, others could be toned down a bit.

    Just try to compliment “like a girl” - a simple “Hey I love your scarf! The pattern is awesome” is much calmer than sounding like a runway commentator lol. Only further engage if the other person further engages. This goes for all genders!


  • Broadfern@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldHow are you doing?
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    12 days ago

    People focus so much on “but it’s not enforceable” and “you don’t own what you say on the Internet” that they forget it’s a statement of intention.

    You’re sharing your support, however nominal, for good causes. I see nothing wrong with that ¯\(ツ)

    People used to put goofy-ass sign-offs on comments back in forum days; a couple extra lines of text that don’t hurt anybody shouldn’t be an issue.

    You keep doing you, comrade. /gen /pos





  • Broadfern@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlis this how extroverts function?
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    16 days ago

    Not OP but this is a hell of an insight, thank you.

    You’re right that I would have no frickin clue what that second sentence would mean. Someone asking me if I emailed Bob yet directly would not offend me, and I’d prefer it.

    My only solution so far has been to say directly to my coworkers that they won’t offend me by asking directly but that doesn’t work 100% of the time. I get paid to do my job, not decode 400 lines of possible subtext from a passing sentence because they’re afraid of asking a question.

    I still say hello and act friendly though. ¯_(ツ)_/¯



  • Both. Definitely both. Every person has a unique capacity for resistance, so however you’re able is good and important. Talking about it, protesting, boycotting (even in tiny amounts) is something! Being nice to yourself and others in non-consumerist ways is also resistance; like hand-write a note instead of buying a card; your loved one will still appreciate it.

    The point is to be a dandelion - they try to pave over us, and we pop back up through the cracks, even in our own little unassuming ways. We may be ants to them but insects outnumber vertebrate life forms by orders of magnitude.

    Lots of metaphors as I get sidetracked but case in point: if you can do it, do it!

    ETA: Decentralized forms of resistance may be our best bet. Big coordinated efforts are good. Making them play whack-a-mole is also good. If they don’t know where to look next even better.


  • My layman’s understanding is that clinical narcissism is a pathological obsession with the perception of self (vs. sociopathy which is pathological obsession with self-interests, explained in a moment), and being an asshole is a transient state.

    A narcissist will constantly have in mind what others think of them, and obsessively make sure other people believe they are good, socially better, morally superior, high status, etc. at any cost, and will topple and tear down other people to ensure that perception. Anyone who challenges that is a threat and will be treated with active hostility. They care what you think because it feeds their sickness.

    A sociopath generally does not care what you think, unless you believing something is useful to them. They are typically equally focused on others’ perception of them but for a different reason. People are simply tools; means to an end. Reputation is an asset in their toolkit to get what they want, at whatever cost. Lack of remorse at a pervasive, chronic level tends to characterize sociopathy.

    An asshole doesn’t necessarily mean either. I can be mean to you, or hurt someone to get my way, and that would make me an asshole. I don’t necessarily think I’m better than you and I do have the capacity to feel remorse. Asshole is a changeable behavior, or an attitude, and not a severe disorder.

    TL;DR: Narcissists are specifically mentally sick, and can be assholes. But anyone can act like an asshole ¯_(ツ)_/¯


  • Broadfern@lemmy.worldtoComic Strips@lemmy.worlderetbrtynyu,89p;00
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    17 days ago

    I know you’re mostly joking but from what I understand it’s this:

    True crime: tries to answer the “why” and there’s the invisible carrot of “justice” that you hope to get in the end. Unsolved mysteries leave you with a crack itch of thinking you can “figure it out,” like a puzzle.

    Gore horror: no “why,” no “justice,” no puzzle, just a brutal description of human suffering. There’s no closure.

    That’s just my hypothesis though ¯\(ツ)



  • Hope and action go hand and hand, and it sounds like younger generations in those countries understand that well.

    That’s a valid point; the literal definition of anarchy itself is the absence/abolition of hierarchies so that is pretty easily covered in identification. I’ll check it out, thank you! I’m a firm believer in leftist unity as we have the common overarching goal of equitable rights and QoL for all people.