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“Masculinity” isn’t toxic on its own, “Toxic Masculinity” is a specific thing on its own.
It’s using the measuring stick of being “masculine enough” or “enough of a man” to harm someone else.
Are you saying that you tricked him into having sex with you?
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Comic Strips@lemmy.world•How am I supposed to go on?English123·2 months agoYou’ve never seen the “I wouldn’t even date you” negging, where adult-aged boys try to trick women into pleading their case to the kid?
I think I go to the bar 2 or 3 times a year, and I’ve seen it several times. I’m glad that doesn’t seem to be as much of a thing in the gay community, at least that I’ve seen.
People are often rewarded with power or money for doing/saying shitty things.
If you are rewarded for something, you are likely to continue the pattern.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•what’s the weirdest word in your language?English521·4 months agoIn English, it has to be any of the Contronyms. We have so many, and it really makes it hard for newer speakers to understand some things.
You dust a cake by adding powder, you dust a table by removing powder.
You seed a field by adding seeds, you seed a fruit by removing the seeds.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Should it be against the rules (on sites in general) to mention a troll's alias in an expose/callout, even though the troll lies about everything about themselves and is a known catfisher?English1·4 months agoThis isn’t really a question, but a very thinly veiled accusation.
Maybe post this somewhere that it belongs.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Fediverse@lemmy.world•Lots of people asking questions about the fediverse over at /r/fediverseEnglish2·5 months agoHow, if possible, can I log in to say, discuss.online above, with this account. Or do I need to make a second account over there.
You can view/comment/vote on all of the content there while logged into lemmy.world. As an example, you should be able to click this !flipperzero@programming.dev and participate there. or !AskUSA@discuss.online.
Also, related, is there a way to just, use my Mastodon account, and drop this one completely?
I am not a fan of “microblogging”, so I am not 100% certain. I have seen a lot of posts/comments from Mastodon on lemmy instances, they are the people using hashtags.
Kbin and Mbin are Lemmy-like systems that also hooks into microblogging much easier, so you might be able to do a one account thing there much easier.
Again, not certain because microblogging is not my jam.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What is a human behaviour you've never understood?English4·6 months agoThe mine + yours thing is intimate. You are experiencing the same thing at the same time, while being somewhat vulnerable to the other participant.
Looking into someone’s eyes
Holding someone’s hand
Kissing someone’s lips
FrottingSmelling someone’s nose doesn’t quite feel like it would fit the list.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What's the highest score you got in a game?English9·6 months agoInfinity happens in MTG all the time.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Please help resolve a disagreement in our homeEnglish31·6 months agoWe don’t have one.
If something isn’t important enough to have a specific place, it isn’t important enough to own.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Ask Me Anything@lemmy.ca•I'm one of my husband's 2 wives; I'm the second, AMAEnglish72·6 months agoI have one sister who follows a religion (Christianity) that treats women as less than men, and she was completely fine with in into her mid-thirties. She now seems conflicted about it, but her devotion to the religion is stronger than her desire to be treated equally.
Does it bother you to live in a community that grants you fewer rights because of your reproductive organs? Does it impact how you follow your religion?
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•People who speak English as a second language: how confusing is it that nouns are not gendered?English297·6 months agoNon-gendered wording isn’t exclusive to English, it’s mostly other European languages that stick to doing that.
There are some languages that don’t even have different words for “he” and “she”.
Edit: made the wording less asshole-y
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Lemmy Be Wholesome@lemmy.world•Kindness in an LGBT bookstoreEnglish2·7 months agoThey stopped being common place just before my time, so it would sense for you to have never experienced them.
There isn’t a good reason for people have down-voted you.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Lemmy Be Wholesome@lemmy.world•Kindness in an LGBT bookstoreEnglish54·7 months agoVery common. Queer bookstores often had coffee shops in them and would serve something basic like sandwhiches. If you weren’t a club goer and didn’t want to join a choir or sport steam, that’s often where you would meet other queer people before everyone had the internet in their pocket. They would host speakers/seminars, networking events, board game nights, an acoustic act or two, the fact that they sold books was often secondary.
I think a lot of “Pride Centres” started as bookstores.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Fediverse@lemmy.world•How to deal with spam magazines?English9·7 months agoYou can likely just block the magazine for yourself, or you can contact https://kbin.melroy.org/u/melroy about it.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Fediverse@lemmy.world•🌱The Vegan Userbase on Lemmy Has Reached 110 Users!🌱English71·7 months agoPeople can have more than one account, so there might be overlap between these two instances.
Also, having an account on one of these two doesn’t make you a vegan, just like having an account on any other instance doesn’t mean you’re not a vegan.
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Lemmy, how bad for an individual can consuming cannabis be?English24·7 months agoI don’t smoke weed, but you may want to break things down to be more specific. Because currently, the answer is “they die” or “They DUI someone else, they go to jail, then they can’t get a job when they out, so they become homeless. While homeless they start doing survival sex-work, and they are forced into dangerous and unwanted kinks. They then die, of starvation in the gutter, full of debilitating STIs”
Are you smoking a derivative, like shatter?
Are you smoking the actual plant? wrapped in paper? from glass?
Are you vaping something glycol-based?
Are you using a dry-plant vaporizer?
Are you buying your weed from a legal, controlled source?
Are you getting something that’s laced?
DerisionConsulting@lemmy.cato Comic Strips@lemmy.world•"It's going to be fun to play this game again!" [Azul Crescent's silly scribbles]English4·8 months agoC*ash Slap is on the poster, which is probably supposed to be a reference to Crash Bash.
If you don’t remember Crash Bash, that makes sense, it wasn’t great.
This is a statement, telling the reader to consider, or be skeptical of, what the common understanding of what 6th grade is.
This asking the reader what most people think 6th grade is.
So, how did you read the comment? It isn’t a question; it’s a statement in both sense of the word.