i literally just wasnt looking at lemmy, i didnt see your three comments until now, i wasnt like evading you or anything. i’ll just like read what you said fully now

edit: having actually read it the like whole stereotype of like a privileged white person changing their pronouns for attention and so they can feel oppressed is largely a transphobic trope that gives cover for putting down trans people. to some degree i agree that like queer white people can use their queerness as a weapon against racial minorities as a putdown (i’ve seen this happen myself personally) and solely refer to violence against trans people without mentioning that the majority of transphobic murders and sexual assaults that happen are against black trans people so even though all trans people are under threat, black queer people are at the meeting point of queerness and blackness where violence against them is considered the most acceptable by frothing conservatives - but this is like a discussion to be had between queer and POC people, not white cishet people.

the majority of people who like use neopronouns mainly do it in queer exclusive spaces because like there’s a risk of having conservatives get really mad at them over it, that’s why its not really visible to cishet people outside of the internet because most cishets arent privy to the spaces where queer people do it, it’s not just a thing people do to seem special (for instance Leslie Feinberg, a very well known trans liberationist activist used neopronouns “I am a human being who would rather not be addressed as Ms. or Mr., ma’am or sir. I prefer to use gender-neutral pronouns like sie (pronounced like “see””) and hir (pronouncedlike “here”) to describe myself. I am a person who faces almost insurmountable difficulty when instructed to check off an “F” or an “M” box on identification papers.”).

In regards to the “hexbear is like israel” thing, i disagree with quite a lot that they say but to compare them to a country currently doing a genocide is a bit out of hand. I disagree with their whole “Dont vote” shit but like i can understand where its coming from, in my own country (Britain) there’s a sense that like the labour party is stripping away the pro queer stance that they had under corbyn while platforming transphobes and cynically using queer rights to promote the actual Israel. The conservatives would be so much worse than the labour party and are currently basically teeing themselves up to be like american republicans were a few years ago but i get the urge to just burn it all down, when it comes to the vote i’ll be going to vote and cursing starmer’s name while i do it, but i’ll probably still be voting for him

im british and i give them the g-word pass (gammon) to refer to british people in a derogatory way

they’re not using liberal in the american sense of liberal meaning gay blue haired woman with pronouns and vegan lattes that conservatives get mad at (in general theres a lot of queer vegan women with pronouns and colourful hair on hexbear); they’re defining liberal in the marxist sense in that its people who support capitalism but arent currently fascists, so this includes conservatives, neoliberals, social democrats, and all sorts in it. Their comment seems to be applying more specifically to the ideologically committed liberals as opposed to mostly apolitical people who just say, “oh yeah i guess i;ll vote democrat this time” once every 4 years and have that be the extent of their politcal consciousness

looking at the original thread through the modlog on their side they were actually talking about food security in china and not r*pe apologia. Even if they had been saying how great SA is, the transphobia you showed in that thread entirely unprompted wouldnt have been justified because they were doing something that was also bad

they replied confirming to me that what they were complaining about was in fact racism against white people, given that it seems to be a pretty common bit on lemmygrad to call people crackers and compare them to that kid who went onto fox news to complain about his face being photoshopped onto a picture of a ritz cracker by left wing students at his university that seems to be what they were complaining about

edit: i found a picture of the guy

as a trans person reading some of the comments they cite as the reason you’re banned they seem pretty transphobic, just because you preface one of them with an ‘im not transphobic, but…’ comment it doesnt make it not transphobic to mock people for using neopronouns

“I think neopronouns are stupid and come from a place of privilege and boredom”

“neopronouns are entirely a basement dweller thing.”

“I’m not even a liberal, but y’all are so chronically online and accustomed to being in a little echo chamber you can’t talk to anyone rationally. I’ve never met a trans person IRL who needs me to remember 4 pronouns, or needs pronouns like “Fae”, but say something on Hexbear and you’re instantly transphobic liberal Hitler.”

“Pronouns are fine, y’all took it to a level that looks like alt-right satire of pronouns. Trans rights are human rights, but am I literally Hitler because I don’t think “comrade” or “fae” make sense when used as pronouns? You seem very rational and not at all unhinged.”

“Trans people don’t need 4 pronouns including things like “Fae” and “Doe”, or by “trans” you are you referring to “trans-species” people? I’m not yet open minded on trans-species, I’ll grant you that.”

just a heads up that they cant see your comment and wont be able to respond because according to the hexbear modlog you were banned from hexbear 3 months ago for transphobia and mocking non binary hexbear users for using alternative pronouns

end up being so “anti-racism” that they’re racists themselves

anyone complaining about “reverse racism” or “anti white racism” is a complete joke. like boo fucking hoo, someone called you a cracker on the internet, get over it.