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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • I have a weekly D&D game with my favorite aunt and uncle, as well as my Dad and my cousin’s husband.

    The latter runs one weekend, and I run the next, completely separate games of course.

    I’m 51, my dad is 79, and his sister and her husband are a few years younger than he is. No idea on my fellow DM, I suspect late 40s.

    If you find a common thread to hang on to, you can have a great relationship.

    In this case, my aunt and uncle knew I was a huge weird nerd whose dad introduced him to D&D at 7 years old, so they thought to invite me when their daughter’s husband made a game for them.

    Seven years later, we are still at it and I run a game for my friends as well.

    These relationships can be nurtured, as all can. You just have to find and maintain the why’s.

    Even people who don’t give a crap about birdwatching may still love to see the birds their old friends spot.

    But to further your point, I don’t make much of an effort for those relatives that I don’t have much in common with.

    This year’s Christmas present is a box of homemade fudge, rice krispie treats, and spicy chex mix, all homemade.

    That’s the effort I put in for those I don’t have in my weekly or monthly life but are extended family.




  • My wife and I met through Okcupid about fifteen years ago.

    I had been in an insanely stupid long-distance relationship, called it off, and started looking for someone local.

    The woman I broke things off with was younger than me and baby crazy, so I extended my age range by the same amount and met my wife quickly thereafter.

    Specifically, we chatted for two or three weeks before I suggested we meet at a coffee place.

    Two dates later we were exclusive.

    She is seven years older than me and had never been in a serious relationship.

    Just keep looking. Lonely people are absolutely everywhere, and you’re bound to find someone you just link up with eventually.



  • USPS has a way of combining smaller towns and suburbs to the largest nearby city. In practice this is very useful. You know your friend is near Nashville, say, and the zip codes do the heavy lifting.

    So I would posit that using USPS as a source in this case is not a great idea.