I’ve been contemplating making the switch from Pop to LMDE. Have you encountered many issues daily driving LMDE?

I was stunned when I saw it wasn’t that guy. Jokes on me, because yeah, very clearly the same dude with a new account. He seriously needs to log off, go to the gym, and see a therapist

It’s not. Those things have worked for me and many others. You’re not that special. If you want to keep wallowing in hating and pitying yourself, that’s your choice. But remember that it’s not life and the world conspiring against you, it’s your own shitty behavior that drives people away.

It’s not great

Everyone is capable of change. And I mean this as gently as possible, but it looks from your post history that you might benefit from talking to a therapist. It seems like you’re in a deep depression hole, and I know it can be hard to see it in the moment, but therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes can really do wonders for improving your mood and outlook on life.

Not with that attitude

Yep. Winter in Michigan is a long gray hell. The summers are beautiful though! It’s enough that by June you’ve forgiven yourself for moving to a place with winters like that, until it’s January again and you’re wishing for a single ray of sunshine.

Falling, getting into a fight, being attacked, or watching a disaster happen. I regularly get night terrors, where I’ll wake up screaming. It’s genetic, apparently, my dad and his dad both had them too. My brothers get them too. I don’t get them much any more, regular cannabis use has turned off pretty much all my dreams. Shit gets whack when I stop, the dreams come back way more realistic and intense.

Hell yeah. That would be cool

“The term ‘tankie’ was originally used by dissident Marxist–Leninists to describe members of the Communist Party of Great Britain (CPGB) who followed the party line of the Communist Party of the Soviet Union (CPSU). Specifically, it was used to distinguish party members who spoke out in defense of the Soviet use of tanks to suppress the Hungarian Revolution of 1956 and the 1968 Prague Spring, or who more broadly adhered to pro-Soviet positions.”

See: Tankie - Wikipedia

Genuinely curious - what do we know makes code very bad?

Behind the Bastards and Knowledge Fight are my two favorites, and I sprinkle in some Cool People Who Did Cool Stuff and Today Explained

The more you know!

IIRC, it’s the same testosterone-y hormone that determines how good you are at growing a beard that also determines how aggressively you go bald. So there’s lots of folks in this boat with us

We had instant chemistry… because we literally had the recitation and lab for our Chem 102 class together

I don’t get it. Can you explain?

The SS Edmund Fitzgerald and the brave men who died on board

I don’t think there is anything in particular that makes me uneasy in this job, but it has happened to me before that I thought things were fine when I was unexpectedly let go. So the fear is a little more real in that sense

Of course there are times when I look at the internet on my phone or whatever, but I have plenty of work to keep me busy, and I’m not falling behind either. So I assume that I’m doing the right amount of work, since no one is complaining

Yeah, impostor syndrome is a good way to describe it, and it does indeed suck. That’s all good advice though, thank you! It is such a strange change of pace to be judged on perception and not purely ability, especially since I feel like I’m not very good at reading other people and knowing how to manage relationships like that. People skills aren’t my forte, hence a career in engineering lol

Fortunately I think my manager does view me well, so I can try to reassure myself with that

In my experience, predominantly male environments are fairly disdainful of anything non-technical and include a lot of unexamined biased views toward women. Workplaces with more women, or a balance of both, don’t have the same issue, in my experience.

I’ve worked predominantly in two fields - engineering and environmental policy. I find the culture of engineering to be pretty toxic - too many conservative men. Environmental policy suffers from too much being demanded of workers, I think mostly because of the expectation that you’re motivated by your passion, rather than being paid for your time. I don’t know if that is directly tied to the gender balance in the workplace, but certainly women historically and presently are not compensated fairly for their work.

It’s a shame that I’m better at doing engineering, because I vastly prefer to not work in a place where I can hear my boss listen to Hannity every day through the wall.