I wish I could clone you – <3, an inpatient psych nurse.

seems like a lot lol. idk how much people would care either.

yes the boredom will be the biggest problem and likely no electronics will be allowed. get a few good paperback books, a good puzzle book with some more variety than just word searches / sudokus, and bring a non-spiral bound sketchbook and some crayons (all psych wards will pretty much universally allow crayons vs if they’re acute enough they may worry about hard plastics, but admittedly that level of acuity is somewhat rare) and practice your figure or still life drawing or just have fun scribbling if you like. also a great time to pick up origami as a hobby. If you ask nicely they will almost definitely play music for you but it might be in a group setting where you have to rotate choosing with the other patients.

hi I’ve been working inpatient psych for almost a decade, ama! lol.

any new power structure can be good for the time it takes a generation to pass. after that people forget why they designed something a certain way and lose engagement with the political process. the only political and economic system that will ever be functional is one that is fundamentally founded on educating the populace on both their right and their responsibility to be involved in their own governance. the right to bear arms was a prototypical move to ensure people would always be able to enforce their right to self governance but without education in the importance of actually doing so it has ultimately failed to fulfill that purpose.

there’s already a !bestofredditorupdates@lemmit.online but a lot of instances block lemmit for being bot content since their whole purpose is to repost reddit content which like. bots are actually super useful for that kind of thing. A LOT of users don’t seem to understand that they personally have the power to set instance blocks for their own account. so instead they push for defeds when like. just block the instance from your settings. it’s a checkbox. it’s not complicated! Sometimes I worry that all the defeds will create little insular echo chambers when the whole point of fedi is diversity.

one of the many reasons I’ve heard is that men are unhappy with the financial benefits it entitles the woman to.

IMO receiving money in the event of divorce is one of the few ways a woman is protected while living a “traditional” lifestyle; when she leaves the workforce to care for a home and children, she’s both giving up a the opportunity to save and invest capital, AND she’s giving up becoming experienced in her field. Giving up the experience means she that if she loses financial support and attempts to return to the workforce, she would have to do so in a junior role in her field, if she can find work at all. Things like alimony and division of assets are, at least imo, a completely fair compensation for the unrespected but very real work of homemaking.

And while that’s ultimately not a lifestyle that suits me personally, there are a lot of men who want a tradwife, but don’t respect that that’s going to require them to be a trad husband. One of the reasons I got married as a working / career oriented woman was that I thought my domestic house husband deserved financial security in payment for supporting my career. I think a lot of it really does just come down to the underlying misogyny of not considering homemaking to be a legitimate profession when it’s been fundamental to society longer than written record.

Abilify is a beautiful long term maintenance med but wholly inappropriate for an acutely agitated and combative patient.

Almost every other animal dies pretty quickly after having their last round of children / losing fertility, but humans live almost twice as long. Elders have a literal hardcoded purpose in human evolution.

I’m using owncloud for that but (don’t hate me) I’m having to use chatgpt a LOT for the initial configuration. There’s a lot of stuff I’m having to learn to get back into it and it’s really good at searching docs by fuzzy match, pointing out what part of a function block isn’t working, and drafting individual function blocks to experiment with (I’ll comment out the original, paste in the chatgpt one, test it, etc). It’s a much better experience than a decade ago and I haven’t gotten emotionally abused by a more experienced person on stack overflow or reddit once yet.

I’ve got owncloud running as a lan only service so it just auto syncs my calendar, contacts, and a few folders of documents / pictures I like to keep with me but only whenever I’m home. Right now I’m just also configuring the same old computer to do some basic media / retro gaming on the TV and the hard part right now is configuring magic mirror as it’s idle display to keep hubs and I straight on our calendars and tasks (and show some family photos). Nothing major just as I get back onto Linux after ten years it’s nice to not get called lazy and stupid while I’m learning.

yeah my mastectomy is on the books as alleviating back pain. and like. it did do that!

you say you’re worried about harassing her. we need more context on why you’re worried about this to be able to give the best answer. If this is a professional context for either or both of you, the focus should be maximizing your professional rapport by reassuring her without mentioning romance. if it’s a very laid back workplace where strict boundaries aren’t 100% mission critical you miiight get away with something like “in a different life I’d like to know you a little better actually, but I think the most important thing for both of us right now is to keep this professional.” vs if this is an entirely personal relationship you could try something more like,"I’d actually like to know you better if you’re interested but I didn’t want to overstep.“

another relevant comparison is why it’s OK for you to get irradiated by the xray machine but the technician goes and hides behind the wall. you’re getting it done once today, the technician is doing it 50 times a day 3-5 days a week (or more depending on cost of living in the area 😉). You’ll notice a lot of those nail techs and dental professionals are also wearing respirators while applying product to their clients and patients. wear your ppe.

a few weeks ago the cat jumped up on the couch behind me to start gagging right over my head. it was a whole new level of Audacity that I never even knew existed.

why are they booing you? you’re right!

depends. there’s people who to not ghost I’d have to have to have a several hour conversion of them spam texting or attempting to interrogate me and we were never close enough for it to be my responsibility to explain their interpersonal failings to them in detail. I can’t fix the world and if I spend my personal time giving every person I run into whose parents failed to teach them basic social skills an hour+ of psychosocial educational therapy, I would never get anything else done.

The worst part is that it’s not just that it’s a position of power, it’s that there’s also very little else about it that’s desirable. Your entire job is to show up places and tell people to stop doing things they want or feel that they need to be doing, and often that they’re willing to physically attack you for interfering with. The pay is also pretty mediocre overall. So if you want overall pleasant interpersonal interactions or a decent wage, you’d have to go elsewhere. If all you want is power over other human beings, that job will be a great fit for you.

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and in the ways that’s it’s not customer service focused it’s so focused on flowsheets and tracking metrics that you have to constantly consciously remind yourself that the human in front of you isn’t just an object that you’re doing things to. It gets to a point that you’re wiping people’s genitals with the same efficiency as you’ll wipe down the bed when they’re done with it and some patients can tolerate that well enough but then every once in a while you get someone with sexual trauma. And that’s just one example.

well clearly all used products must go to the landfill after the original purchaser is done with them, regardless of how much or little they were used since purchase.

ok but why is my husband this fucking funny:

and it’s for exactly this reason that arguing with a delusion strengthens it. If you show a person with Cotard delusions how to find their pulse they’ll come to the conclusion that dead bodies can still have a heartbeat and if you show a person with capgras delusions a DNA test now the doppelgangers can mimic DNA too. the new information just gets integrated in a way that supports the delusion. all you can do is try to distract them while the antipsychotics hit and try to keep them socially connected through unrelated stuff like hobbies, music, etc.