I’m so happy people still know this movie.

I haven’t used it outside of Windows Firefox and Android but it works great for me as well.

For mobile specifically: Rarely do I have any issues, and when I do, I have a quick panel button for Bitwarden (top drag down menu) that lets me manually trigger it. I can’t think of any apps that it doesn’t work with. My one nit is that autofill credit card info doesn’t work often, but obv that’s a secondary use, and the info is still with me if I ever need it on the go. And adding new login info can be a little tedious on mobile – much easier to create it first, then autofill. Highly appreciate the 2FA feature too. The auto copy feature feels really seamless regardless of if I’m on my phone or not.

I’d be curious what issues you seem to be running into with it.

I was in my early 20s when I started. Wanted the calming effects of nicotine, was into other similar interests, and was dating someone who also got into it. He was actually the second vaper I’d dated, so you could say it took me a while to be interested.

I’d had a couple cigs before but I never considered myself a smoker and didn’t take to it. Vaping became a huuuge hobby for me. Learning about different mods, building your own coils, DIY e-juice, etc. I was vaping all day, all the time, pretty much as soon as I woke up (at the lowest amount possible though). It was a nice flavor and chemical pick me up when I was on edge. Sort of like a physical distraction. I vaped for 5 or so years. The lasting effects I’ve noticed are that sometimes I miss it. That’s it. It was pretty hard to quit, mostly because I didn’t want to. I had a lot of resistance, because it became a passion for me. But nicotine regulations started to suck, and that same partner quit as well. I got really sick with a flu and didn’t vape during it. Then, I didn’t start again after I got better. I had dreams about it, and it took a bit for me to want to move on.

The thing is, though, I don’t feel any different now than when I was vaping constantly. It doesn’t improve your life that much. It’d be great if it could be an occasional thing, like alcohol or dessert is, but it’s hard to not do it all the time if you’re doing it at all. And you get to an equilibrium where it just doesn’t feel that strong. Hence the constant clouds.

The most annoying part about it is that it becomes like a security blanket. You have to take it everywhere. Forget it for work? Guess you’ll just be late today. Have to sit for a movie? Man it sucks not to vape inside. Flying for hours? What a nightmare, can’t wait to land and go outside.

It was annoying to not feel myself if I ever decided to leave my vape behind. And blowing clouds out of my car was great, but it sucked having to wipe down my car windshield all the time due to the glycerin condensation. Same with inside – no smoke on the walls, but the glycerine would hang around and I’d have to run an air purifier. I’d often worry about the vapor leaving slight residue all over my apartment, belongings, monitors, PC internals and such.

Overall, it was great for a while as it was something I got really into, but it was also a lot of money and stress over something that didn’t really benefit my life the way other hobbies still continue to do. Much better to be a free person unattached from adult security blankets. 😎

Depends. Is the loneliness a byproduct of choices made for happiness in other aspects of your life, like moving to a new city or being picky about your social circle? Are you choosing to stay in and not interact for certain reasons? Or is the loneliness caused by things you can’t control, like people leaving or mental health issues?

If it’s the former, I say embrace it and work on focusing less on how you think your life should look. Pay attention to the things that you love by yourself. Take in the moments any moment where you notice you’re having a great time and don’t have to stop due to someone else. Imagine you just got done with a 12 hour road trip with someone who talks too much and breathe in the silence and peace of the moment. Listen to rain or cars rushing by. Sometimes, I find that loneliness can be caused by feeling like you’re missing out on something but maybe wouldn’t even make you happy. There are lots of people who feel lonely in their families or friendships or relationships.

If it’s the latter, I’d work up to a more comfortable and satisfying level of socialization. It takes time. In that process, you’ll hopefully find yourself leaning pickier and finding out what works and what doesn’t. Be selfish. Learn to spend time with people and then decide for yourself whether you want to keep spending time with them. Treat your energy and presence like precious rubies. They are! Invest in who matters most to you and keeps you feeling good after you leave. This will build your confidence and belief in your worth and motivate you to keep working on the things that keep you from happiness. Ending loneliness isn’t a goal you get to, it’s a side effect of choosing people who see the real you and doing the self care of letting others in. :)

I haven’t been yet personally, but I have a lot of friends who go every year. Some of the things that they love about going are the big cultures around consent, the random awesome and unique things that you find everywhere, spending time with friends, a lack of money economy, being your completely human self w/o any judgement, and basically stepping into a world that’s separate from the rest of society. You’ll find a lot of these things at local burns as well. If you are getting curious, I would really encourage the latter. Regional or local burns are like mini burning men with a similar vibe, but a lot more conscientious and tight-knit. The best way to get into one is to find a facebook group for the one closest to you. Sometimes they’ll meet up outside the events, and you can go to ask questions and to coordinate. Since there’s a lack of money economy, everything is done either with trades or with shared responsibility. There’s something at burning man called “radical responsibility” where each person is responsible for their own wellness and contributions. So you can’t go expecting there to be vendors or other people with food or water or what have you – it’s important to figure those things out ahead of time so that way you’re not a burden on others (which allows you to be a contributing member of the community and show up fully). Like I said I haven’t actually been, so I don’t know the full details, but that’s most of what I do know! Most people I’ve met that go are some of the most interesting people I know and really know how to party and what life’s about for themselves, so I recommend finding out more :)

There’s also looria.com/reddit, which gives product recommendations based on the thoughts from different hobby subs. :)

I’m sure there are some people on here that might have read it, but I haven’t met many, so my pick is the Ender’s Game saga. There are currently 19 books and I’ve read at least 10 of them. It’s a really easy read, as someone who struggles to get into more complicated writing styles. Some people might be so-so about it due to some of the author’s personal beliefs, but I really adore the lore itself. It offers a ton of different flavors to future visions, alien relations, psychology, and humanity.

Technically correct is the best kind of correct.

Speaking as someone that started with little experience, I love Adam Ragusea and Pro Home Cooks. Both explain things you never thought to ask about cooking and concepts that you can apply across lots of different dishes. I’ve learned things that I still continue to think about long after watching whenever I’m making up some food :)

Sounds like brain fog. Speaking as a fellow sufferer of anxiety (health anxiety included), I know how it is see something that seems wrong with you and try to pin a cause onto it. Are you being social? Keeping up with sleep, food, exercise? I know those are overstated but it sounds like you’re having some brain fog. The more you focus in on the fog the more it may seem pronounced, as brain fog is highly influenced by stress. I’ve suffered from some myself and have felt kind of tuned out for a while. A large part of it for me has been from the shock of different life changes and the endless stress of work and relationships. The fog in that situation doesn’t get a chance to subside because the body is trying to get through sustained stress with little damage.

It could also be from imbalances of vitamins like vitamin d or iron. Just to be clear, I highly doubt it was from the burning cable. It’s definitely not good for you, but people smoke cigarettes and breathe road fumes for decades without losing the mental capacity you’re describing here. Funky stuff happens when we look back on our past selves too, I feel like it’s hard to make a fair comparison to yourself at any prior point when you factor in a lot of things that happen in-between. I don’t doubt what you’ve been experiencing though. Sounds crappy. I hope you give yourself a chance to consider all of the possibilities and be easier on yourself for not functioning at 100% right now – it doesn’t mean it’s forever or that it means something big, it could just be your capacity right now.

The number one thing I’ve heard from avoidant people is that perfectly human emotions, albeit perhaps unfitting for the situation, are “clingy” or “too much.” They don’t know how to ask for things like space and own their own needs. It’s much easier to instead blame their inner turmoil and resistance on the relationship by singling out that one thing they think is wrong with it. That way they don’t have to be vulnerable and admit they’re imperfect too. I’m sure you might know all of this anyway, but just a reminder that it’s okay and healthy to be a lil clingy and worried. Not your fault.

When I mentioned Windows, I meant that Adobe also requires Windows 10. And I don’t believe in using edge or chrome because they’re both anti-privacy. I feel like a huge company like Adobe aim to be compatible on most browsers and shouldn’t limit their website visibility because of the browser you’re using, especially with something like Firefox which is well-known. It sets a bad precedent for other websites to do the same, which cuts off the freedom of the web.

Yeah, it’s a bit hard when you’re dealing with industry standards. I’m provided CC through work so it’s not really my choice, but it sounds like Affinity still isn’t a 1:1 option. I’ve been interested in it so I’m glad to hear the other side of things. It’s easy to go FOSS for most personal things, but not as much when it comes to doing business.

Hahah that’s what yik yak used to be! Unfortunately it did not go terribly well…

Not the person you replied to, but the PNW (OR, WA, and BC Canada) has some fantastic tap water. Seriously the best.

I’m ashamed to admit I do the same thing!! Both of those. Lol. If I’m putting out a bunch of boxes in the recycling I always worry people will think I’ve got valuables or something nice and target me. Also identity theft is no joke. It’s annoying that credit card companies send so much semi-sensitive stuff via mail.

The book “Nonviolent Communication” by Marshall Rosenberg has a lot of wisdom to offer this issue. The author moderated and helped to resolve political tensions between countries, for example. His work honestly changed how I view talking to others with opposing beliefs.

Please write for black mirror!

I had something similar happen a few years back. I had matched on tinder with someone from a different state that I actually met years ago in high school. I hadn’t really been interested in him that way back then, but we reconnected and it was intense. We talked everyday and our birthdays both fell on the same weekend, so I went down there to visit him and celebrate together. Only a couple days in, he told me one night that he was falling in love with me. We built a pillow fort, partied, and went hiking together. I was absolutely smitten and so excited to start something new.

I ended up putting off the rest of my road trip to stay longer with him. However, when I finally did leave, I was driving through miles of desert when he texted me and said that he actually didn’t see anything happening between us. He said that he wanted someone who knew when to “leave him the f alone” and wasn’t looking for someone who wanted something super deep, but more so just companionship. It felt like such a rejection of who I was and I was gutted. I felt like it was somehow my fault. Since I didn’t have signal, it was a rough drive alone with my thoughts.

Towards the end of the night, I ended up texting with a friend about it while I camped out (still on my road trip). It sucked at the time but looking back, he was kind of a prick. He had no shame about leading me on and he picked on me for little things while I was visiting him.

It’s usually a bad sign when things feel so intense right off the bat. It’s only easy for this guy to leave because he really doesn’t know you well enough to know what he’s missing out on. It might feel like you missed some chance, but it isn’t your fault that this happened and there wasn’t more you could do. Be gentle with yourself. ❤️ This guy wasn’t honest with himself or with you about his feelings, and he ended up hurting you for it. It’s clear to me that he likely isn’t mature enough for you. Remind yourself that you were willing to go the distance, right? You did everything you could have. You want someone who will go the distance with you and follow you to the ends of the earth, and tbh, it’s much more likely something to do with him, not you. Meaning that even if the distance wasn’t an issue, you don’t know if it would work either.

And you don’t have to get over it right away. It’s okay to just kind of drag through the days for a bit. But keep socializing, because other nice (and even attractive!) people will remind you that you still have something left and you’re worth kindness from others. And do things for yourself. When I get lost after heartbreak, what has helped a lot is going for walks or hikes, sometimes on trails where the signal is iffy (so I don’t expect a surprise text), with an audiobook or some music. I really wish you the most kindness. Feel free to shoot me a message if you need any extra support, I’ve been there.

I’ve found that learning about and practicing DBT has offered me more of a skill to do this myself. I know what you mean about wishing you could see outside the frame of your emotions and past. In DBT, we have something called the “emotion mind” and the “reasonable mind.” But we need both in order to make decisions. Rationality is great, but emotion provides direction, desire, goals, and a “why” for everything we do. The idea is that when you use emotion and reason together, you can use your “wise mind” which can help you see outside your experiences and gain perspective in new areas. I think I know what you mean because I also crave further neutral 3rd party understanding on my past too, and use ChatGPT a lot for that myself. Thought I would just throw in a couple more cents if you hadn’t heard of the concept. :)