I lurk in my city’s subreddit. It briefly closed as part of the protests, but the Lemmy community that was created at the time is inactive.

Not exactly the same, but I find “plug” and “socket” or “jack” to be generally more useful terms since the definitions are based on function rather than similarity to genitalia. Plugs are usually male, but always. For example, computer power supplies typically have a male jack and a female plug. In those situations, I find it more meaningful to describe the part by whether it is fixed or moves rather than which way the prongs go.