Yep. And even then, our desktop computer was upstairs - which was out of the way, nothing up there except my sister’s bedroom and a living room that wasn’t really used - so arguably that was too isolated lol. We weren’t allowed laptops until we finished high school! Even my friend who did have a laptop wasn’t allowed it in her bedroom.
The internet was also restricted to go off at 9pm because I was staying up on msn and Myspace all night otherwise 😅
Neurodivergent? I am lol and this resonates. I write a lot more now that I have an ereader (that can also be a notebook!) I get it out rather than my phone sometimes and there’s less distraction on it. It’s either read, write or browse the bookstore 😅
They kinda all play into each other.
I’ve been dealing with depression and other health conditions since I was a preteen. It took me a longggg time to recognize my mental health is always the priority but also ongoing, there’s no “destination”. If I’m the right weight, no debt, zero alcohol etc but I still want to die then there’s no point.
Of course they all intertwine but front of mind for me is keeping some semblance of a purpose and desire to want to be here. For example, I can’t work full time because I don’t cope. Took me a long time to give myself permission to just not have that as a goal. I survive by working part time, the finances aren’t ideal, but I am able to enjoy moments of life more often than when I was working full time (in and out of hospital).
Purpose is the biggest thing to find, something that gives your life meaning, everything else comes after that.
Not possible entirely. These goals are unrealistic really!
How to manage stress is a better goal because life is always going to involve stress. I think it’s managing everything on this list rather than eliminating. Zero debt isn’t possible for a lot of people. Zero alcohol is a choice, why?
Just figure out what’s important to you personally and how to manage things the best way that you can. All these things go in and out of whack through life.
Really? That’s sad that this seems unrealistic! I think this is still the time that the kids I knew and the ones I know now did/do have the right nutrition. Right nutrition for their development. I would say it starts to go off track around early teens/preteens when kids are having a lot less supervised times, access to pocket money, body image issues etc.
But idk I’m not in the US, maybe it’s a US thing. Not saying kids don’t have sugar and shit here but the “right nutrition” doesn’t have to be extreme though it is a vague term.
Personally I grew up malnourished and still am but that’s due to medical issues. I’m jealous of how well everyone around me was raised to eat a balanced diet 😅
Ignorance is bliss!
Nice! Are you Irish yourself? Yeah I started with Duolingo which I still use - I’ve looked at Sionnach but I don’t love the interface though I like the concept. I used duocards for a while too. I think they both have different methods of learning than Duolingo but neither quite has the easy, smooth interface yet! Also did a local online class for a couple of months but the teacher wasn’t very engaging unfortunately so I didn’t carry on 😭 I want to get some 1:1 tutoring at some stage, I think that’s the best way but obviously $$$ 🙄
I have a coworker and friend who is Irish (but not fluent in Irish) and I love getting to practice it with her and leaving her notes in the office in Irish haha. I think getting to use it is the key which is why I’d like a tutor. I’m Australian so no “need” for it here, I just enjoy it and find Ireland fascinating.
Yup my kobo libra colour. It was pretty pricey but well worth it. Had a Kindle for about a decade or so before that so it was a big upgrade.
Love that it’s easy to borrow from the local library on it (couldn’t do that on Kindle where I’m from) or yeah, books from anywhere. I quite like the colour e-ink, I don’t read much in it but the occasional illustrations in books is cool to be able to see in colour.
I do annotate a fair bit so the different coloured highlighters help there too.
And I love having the notebooks. I’ve been writing creatively so much more now that I have it. I missed handwriting but I have so many physical notebooks I would buy and then not use or use once or twice lol. Having the kobo with me all the time is great because I have all my notebooks on it for different things. It’s helped my productivity a lot!
There’s only one thing that I came across recently that I wish I could do and haven’t found a way. I transferred some of my typed poetry to my kobo and I wish there was a way I could throw it in with my handwritten notebooks rather so I could keep editing there rather than having to switch to the pdf version in the other section. But that’s really only a pretty minor thing in terms of e-readers!
Yup. Autistic and noise cancelling headphones help me in all kinds of environments I wouldn’t be able to deal with otherwise. Including the airport!
I still need to find some good NC earbuds though. The Bose quiet comfort are fantastic but unfortunately known to stop working repeatedly (I’m about to get my 6th pair replaced through warranty over about 18 months!)
I’ve been learning Irish for a few months now - incredibly difficult language but fascinating.
Also getting back into poetry and learning different techniques around writing. Not sure I always like some of the very rigid “rules” but it’s interesting to learn. I’ve never been particularly technical with my writing but it has opened my mind to trying new styles.
CAN you call him?
I’m autistic and I don’t think I fall into this way of talking but I do know that autistic people have been saying that they are getting flagged as AI more often than non autistic people. It’s only anecdotal but it will be interesting to see if it is really happening!
My question is do people have supervisors that they never see (in a meeting, even on video?) or talk to on the phone? I know a lot is done through text based communication now but I didn’t realize there are people who ONLY have text based comms with their bosses.
Yep, definitely not saying that we’re not below the replacement numbers despite certain demographics having more access and increases! The replacement number itself is so generic.
It’s based on developed country’s requirements without taking migration into account. So it’s not what most developed countries talking about declining birth rates, are actually aiming for. Australia, for example, is built on immigration, our goal being based on no immigration makes no sense! Other countries (Ireland for example) still have a high rate of emigration. A lot to take into consideration outside the very generic replacement number of 2.1 when you start to narrow it down 😅 You’re right about Israel in terms of developed countries! They’re sitting at ~2.9!
Some of the rhetoric I see seems to be that the birth rates have “suddenly” dropped which is far from accurate.
I’m looking at a couple of countries but particularly Australia. Contraception being introduced (early 60s) had a big effect as did the accessibility of abortion (70s). In fact, it appears that the biggest “sudden drop” actually occured through the 70s/early 80s. I wonder if they were speaking about it in the alarmist way we (society) do now.
Interestingly - Australia - teen pregnancies have dropped 75% since the 1970s. Gonna say this is a good thing about declining birth rates. 👏
I’m no data analyst but I think that it looks like the biggest factor for declining birth rates came with birth control. If not for that I think the graphs would look relatively stable with smaller fluctuations.
Australia actually had a small increase in the early 2020s! Still below 2.1 though!
I don’t know, it’s all very interesting. I think there are a lot of very good things about the birth rate having dropped. Found a study around the decreasing rate of “undesired births”. Such a nuanced topic! I’m sure there’s more numbers out there for individual countries about the projection around migration numbers needed rather than focusing on the generic replacement number.
A few of the sources I read;
https://www.abs.gov.au/statistics/people/population/historical-population/latest-release
😅 right some hyperbole there or what! I actually don’t disagree with the rest of that comment about nature and community but you really lose people by starting with wild statements like western culture is a disease! It’s sad because they probably had some decent points (nature, community etc) but override that with the flair of the dramatic and it’s hard to take seriously!
Haha, it’s interesting. I’m a lesbian, never had an interest in kids. My brother is straight, never been interested in kids. My sister is a lesbian and has had two kids (so far?). It’s just interesting to see what different people see as the barriers/reasons for not having kids (not having a dig, it’s genuinely interesting!)
That’s where it would be fascinating to see the statistics laid out for so many things side by side; how many more LGBTQ people are having families than in the past, same with infertile people, single people (more rare but it happens!) and then the ways that it’s decreased too elsewhere. There are groups who are having more kids than ever before - because it’s more accessible (IVF) and then obviously groups that aren’t.
Then of course the way that life expectancy has increased which is where the balance gets tricky and the numbers are important.
I’m also curious if 4-5 kid families are still more common in any western countries than others. I’m in Australia and agree that they’re rare here now. I’d see 2 as the norm though I’m going to jump down a rabbit hole now 😅 🐇
Green (before I read your whole post, just the question)
I mean I feel like these numbers have been decreasing since mortality rates increased. People used to have 5-10 kids because they knew they likely wouldn’t all live through childhood. It makes sense that people realized that shift and that having 10 kids who survived wasn’t easy! So yes that plus economics makes sense why most families are about 2 kids.
Yes, I think with women it’s not just about “career or children”. Regardless of being a “career woman” or not, more women than historically are choosing not to have kids or choosing not to settle for whoever comes along. So if they don’t meet someone they really like they’re more likely to walk away.
Social pressure around having kids absolutely still exists but it’s definitely lower compared to any other time in history.
It’s the same as how people instantly think divorce rates going up is a bad thing. But again, this is partly due to less social pressure and more people willing to break the previous social codes in which case it’s a good thing that more people are leaving unhappy marriages.
I’m not sure the birth rates will climb significantly again. I think they will just even out steadily because there are people who have the choice to not have children now. And it’s not just giving them the opportunity to manage it financially that will change that. Reducing it to economics still ignores part of the feminist, equality angle of the argument.
Yep that’s right, to give to first responders, the person themselves or any other support people that may be involved. Can help people pick up on if anything is changing, longer seizures can mean medication might need looking at, condition deteriorating etc.
Ooh fantastic, I will have a look through there for sure - go raibh maith agat!
So I am autistic and my interests tend to get quite stuck on one thing. I think mine started with Derry Girls lol which I needed the political context for so started reading books about the troubles. Then I heard Sinead O’Connors song Famine which is better than any history lesson I ever did at school and that led me to digging further into the history of Ireland!
One of the things that kept coming up was the erasure of the Irish language which really pissed me off 😡😅 I enjoy creative writing and learning different communication styles it’s all very close to my heart (I know I sound articulate here but I can struggle quite a bit with my verbal communication!). I don’t like the idea of people limiting that for others! I find the Irish language very interesting historically and it sounds so beautiful. I like the roots of words and phrases - even though I’m not religious haha and a lot of it is based around religion of course.
Things like tà bròn orm being the sadness is on me - as opposed to I AM sad really speak to me. The well wishes of the greetings/farewells. Slàinte - health, slàn - safely, etc.
I love learning the direct translations and deeper meanings behind the words. I think it’s a very poetic language.
The dialects absolutely 😅 Picked up on that through Duolingo giving different pronunciations for the same words!? Even different phrases!? Conas atà tú was what I knew for how are you but all of a sudden that was wrong and the answer they were looking for was Cad é mar atá tù? And some dialects still use mh = w for certain words whereas others don’t! Maidin mhaith - some say “ma” some say “wa”!?
Northern accent is brilliant but definitely harder to understand for a lot of people (my mum needs subtitles for Derry Girls 😅). All the accents are so lovely haha. Are you still living in Ireland yourself?
Of course I have seen and listen to kneecap! I love music that uses English/Irish interchangeably! Fun way to pick up on the language.
If you read all of this go raibh maith agat as léamh 😅