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  • At the same time, it really, really sucks thinking you found this and then slowly realizing years into it that it’s not going to work

    Its not going to work with that particular person, but that doesn’t mean your life is over nor that the one you’re looking for still isn’t out there looking for you. I’m really sorry to hear about the situation you’re in right now, and its not going to be easy to get through this and its certainly not going to be quick, but you can get through this. You can heal. You are so much more than just that relationship even though it may not feel like that right now.

    You must navigate these choppy waters with an aim to come out the other side whole in time. You owe it to yourself. If you want to try again in the future, should you want to try again, you owe it to the other person thats still out there looking for you.








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    There was some social commentary in that golden casino planet where the rich lived in excess while the poor barely got by (pay no attention to the Jabba behind the curtain)

    Good world building, but it did nothing to move the story forward. The entire casino planet could have been cut and the story would be unchanged without any social or story impacts.

    If they were going for social commentary, they could have set it up to find out that rebel weapons like the X-wing fighters and whatever macguffin they needed so save the main plot line were built by slave labor.

    Semi-evil procurement character: “Yeah, I understand what you need. I can have it built in a day. Its an extremely toxic manufacturing process and because I’m not set up for that work, 20 or 30 slaves will die but thats no problem. Yeah, I can get it for you in the day you need it.”

    They would have had to make a choice between save the slaves or getting the macguffin. They could have still chosen to not come away with the macguffin because they chose to save the slave labor and at least that would have given purpose to the whole distraction of that storyline.

    And, of course, they cast minorities in leading roles!

    I liked that part. John Boyega, among others, was a great actor. Kelly Marie Tran did as best she could with the bad writing.



  • I’ve been doing it all my life though so it doesn’t really require more effort than thinking in concepts. It’s like breathing, it happens automatically but I can stop or control it if I want to.

    I’ve found the opposite. The older I get, the “expensive” words are to use. The concept when in mind is so complex and nuanced, to use a word for it shaves off all that complexity and nuance and collapses the thought into the limits of the definition of that word. When it becomes a word, its…less, a mostly formed shadow of what it was. That’s the price of communicating it to others.

    When I stop my inner voice I would describe my thoughts as sort of fuzzy and ephemeral. I would easily forget them or have difficulty expressing them without first putting them into words.

    We operate oppositely in this, which is wonderful! For you it sounds like the thoughts don’t have meaning until you choose words and make them concrete. Like your thoughts are liquid and fluid, but you’re able to make them solid and meaningful by confining them in words. For me, I do the best I can with choosing a word, sometimes dusting off old antiques, to try to match as close as possible to the concept. Sometimes I have found words in other languages sometimes fit better because of a closer match of concepts or properties. That too has its drawbacks, as using that would lose your audience when you’re trying to communicate an idea.


  • no its totally words and sentences.

    That’s amazing to me! It would be so much extra effort for me to put things in words to think on them first. The only time I do that is when I’m testing how it will sound to someone else. Even then, I’ll build the sentences, and then simulate a person hearing them in concept with what I know of the audience to see how they would receive it, and what concepts they draw from what I say. Then I adjust the words as needed to get the thoughts across to the audience.

    I can’t honestly don’t know what my thoughts are outside of that except for visualizing things and like subconsicous things like hunches.

    The best metaphor I can think to describe it is assembling a jigsaw puzzle. You don’t need to describe the shape of the piece to be able to find a matching piece it fits into. The shape, size, edge, color, and pattern all inform you of where it will fit. That’s kind of a hunch. This conceptual thinking works similarly. There are “attachment points” to each concept that link them together with other mental abstracted concepts. There are places that don’t fit which let you know the pieces are unrelated.


  • Mines constant. I can’t really make any decisions without internal debate and I have to sorta constantly keep track of things I need to this.

    A new perspective from this article on the topic I haven’t heard before is that what you’re describing may not be the “inner voice” being referred to.

    after work im going to do x this weekend I need to get y and z done. W needs to get done before the end of the month.

    I’m going to assume your native language is English (forgive me, replace with your own native language). When you’re having this internal debate, are your points and counterpoints in actual English language with a sentence structure noun+verb+adjective? This is what I’m reading in the article they say “inner voice” is.

    • “I really need to do laundry this weekend or I won’t have any clean socks on Monday”
    • “I’m going to play football with my friends. I’m excited to work on my kicking form again.”
    • “Have I paid the electric bill? What day does that arrive? How much money do I have in my account?”

    Or instead is it abstract concepts stacked on top and next to each other for comparison?

    • concept of obligation
    • playing out a scenario of the future where you wake up on Monday, open your sock drawer and find it empty
    • forecasting a sense of satisfaction from the completed task
    • calculation of consequences of not doing the task (again)
    • a slight self imposed discomfort to motivate you to complete the things to become comfortable again

    According to my read of the article, the first would be the “inner voice”, the second would NOT be. I have the second, not the first. How about you?




  • I didn’t think this “not using inner voice” thing applied to me, but the way I read the article maybe it does. If the inner voice is truly a voice using grammatical spoken language it sounds crazy limiting.

    As someone with an inner voice, I can’t even imagine how I’d think about abstract concepts without words. Like, how does “I love freedom” or “I wish all people could be free” happen without words?

    None of this is in words when I’m thinking about it. I’m putting words here to describe the concepts , thoughts and feelings, of each step but none of it is words when I’m thinking it.

    Freedom

    • limitless choice
    • peace and comfort
    • patriotism (to the extreme, ironic terms freedom being used as a method of control)
    • anti-freedom = slavery or being controlled
    • personal experience with making free choices
    • historical learning about situations where they didn’t have freedom
    • personal luck in being born in a (mostly) free country
    • imagining being born and living in a place without freedom
    • fictional examples of lack of freedom, like sci-fi dystopia
    • empathy about those that don’t have the same things I do
    • sense of justice about equality
    • memory of muscles used to make my mouth and larynx say the word “freedom” FREEEEEE — DUUMMM

    All of the above only takes a second or two of actual elapsed time.

    Words that come out:

    “I love freedom. I wish all people could be free”.


  • It already has. Thats why its 36 years with “1 child” and only 6 years with “2 child” before it went to “3 child”, they’re deep in deficit and are trying to catch up.

    Further the new “3 child” policy isn’t just a passive allowance. The government of China is actively incentivizing parents to have children.

    “An extra month off and $80 monthly stipends and 30-day days of additional leave part of a series of sweetners local governments have unveiled as China kicks off the legislative process to allow married couples to have a third child in a drive to curb a precipitous decline in births.” source