Moreso asking what the experience with porn is like to those in a relationship. Do you watch alone when needed? Do you watch together? Do you consider it enriching, cheating or something else?
My wife and I have watched porn together. We have not done it regularly.
Do I consider it enriching or cheating? Neither. It is cheap thrills entertainment that I use to rub one off.
Yeah I’d agree
I had a couple of girlfriends I watched porn with, yeah. They were also the best sexual partners I had. Sometimes we would watch it just to laugh at it because it was so absurd and over the top. None of them cheated on me either.
Most of my girlfriends watched porn, but denied it and if the topic came up they’d flip out about how evil and exploitative it was and men who pay for it are evil. They weren’t so great in bed, typically and sense of humor was mostly limited to family sitcoms and dad jokes and a few of them cheated…
I date around and whenever I get an anti-porn speech it’s basically game over for me. I need a sex-positive partner and a healthy attitude towards porn use is part of that.
Interesting, thanks for contributing
We have not, no. We turn each other on like crazy, so it’s simply not necessary. Like we will just be playing a board game or chilling on the couch and he will (from my perspective suddenly) start grabbing me. I really enjoy that about us. He told me he watches porn when we’re apart and it doesn’t bother me.
Sounds healthy! Glad to hear it, thanks for contributing.
I’m a 5ish orgasms a week kind of guy. My girl and I have lived together for years. More than half of the orgasms come from her and I fucking around. The rest come from porn. Every so often we watch together (2 or 3 times a month with big swings sometimes). She rarely watches on her own as her drive is a good bit lower than mine. Neither of us consider it cheating but we do typically see if sex is on the table before watching. Seems healthy from my perspective but I’d love to hear how it works for others.
Not involved with anyone but when I was dating I have had several partners in the past that I’d watched porn with. It’s a fun way to spice things up.
I’d agree with that. Also has the tendency to give ideas for new things to try occasionally.
My wife and I don’t really but we discuss it. I mean if porn had any real value we would likely share interesting or funny things we see but lets face it its all just various kind of rubbing.
Yeah that’s fair lol
Is you partner a friend, a sexual partner, a romatic partner, somebody that you only share a room with, somebody with whom you follow traditional relationship values such as marriage, sexual exclusivity and such? What is sex to you? To me, masturbation can be made a part of sex, but “simply” making yourself feel good is not sex. In the same way, porn consumption could surely be made a part of sex with a partner. If my sexual partner would watch porn without telling me, I would be hurt and think that I am not enough for them, even though I really try to live by the above: that masturbation and sex satisfy different needs.
Which doesn’t even take into consideration the fact that I wouldn’t watch porn if I had a sexual partner, since porn inherently is immoral, since there is no way the consumer can know how the actors are being treated. MAYBE OnlyFans and such are a bit different, but I don’t know…
Interesting take, thanks for contributing.
