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  • I see a lot of “just accept the gift” here, but that’s a rough choice. If you accept the gift, then you would be expected to use it over the one that you like. Your wife may even go so far as to throw the other one away (depending on what it is). So I don’t think accepting the gift was ever an option.

    It really is a hard spot to be put in, and I would have probably done the same thing in your position, even though I hate denying gifts. The whole premise of gifting is flawed, imo, at least where I’m from. To me, the one being gifted is put more on the spot than the one gifting. I hate getting gifts for this reason.

    So maybe this. Explain why you like the one you use better, but that you’re very happy with the gift. Ask her if it’s okay if you keep that gift as a backup if your first one breaks and store it by the first one “just in case”. Its never bad to have two of something.




  • Eyedust@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldSave The Planet
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    5 months ago

    Probably, but neither automatically opt into AI replies. Ecosia has an AI chat, but it doesn’t run until you go to it. Startpage has no AI option that I can see.

    Ecosia has the upside of planting trees depending on user search rate. Not sure how true that is, though. I prefer startpage either way. Startpage claims to be privacy first, and I’ve never received tailored results or ads.

    That doesn’t mean they don’t sell info. We can’t know that for sure, but it sure as hell beats using Google and it’s automatic AI searching.




  • Though non-toxic, it seems liquid silicone can block the bood pathways in your body if it gets in your system. Also, industrial grade (and cheaper) silicone can contain toxic additives, which has been causing a stir lately.

    However, accidentally ingesting a tiny amount of non-liquid food grade silicone particulates shouldn’t raise any concerns, but I see why op might still be wary about it in a spigot.

    To op: Have you considered getting a spigot with silicone o-rings and buying third party natural rubber o-rings to replace them with?

    Edit: Ah, just reread that you did for the gaskets. Hm. Lemme see if I can find anything.

    Edit 2: I found a site selling natural rubber gasket material. You may have to cut it to size:

    https://www.mcmaster.com/products/gaskets/water-resistant-high-pressure-natural-rubber-gasket-material/

    Edit 3: Natural rubber spigot o-rings doesn’t seem to yield many results, but I got some hits for natural rubber faucet o-rings. Maybe try there? Hope you find what you’re looking for.


  • Well… sometimes people just don’t understand each other, too. It was nice talking to you. I didn’t ask any questions because you made yourself quite clear in other comments. You seem to be the type that makes timid people feel unseen, and I don’t vibe with that.

    By trying to make sense of everything, I don’t mean the small fishbowl you seem to be seeing here. I mean humanity. Maybe I’m just insane.

    Well, good luck to you. Pick out and reply to everything you don’t like in life (as you did here) and trample past everything else. That just sounds like stress to me, and I have enough of that without seeing daggers where there are none.


  • I still don’t think that makes it right to accuse people of homophobia, no matter how off hand. I don’t see anything normalizing homophobia in this comment, but again I just don’t like to assume these things. Lashing out was maybe a bit too far, but it’s still a fairly hurtful accusation for someone who didn’t mean anything.

    Its a really big dick. Would you have made the same comment if the wizard saw the barbarian’s glorious asscheeks? I dunno. It’s just a dick to me. It’s a wad of flesh, just like any other wad of flesh.

    And yes, I write long because I have severe unmedicated ADHD and social anxiety. And every time I try to convey myself, I punish myself for it. That’s my problem and I’m trying to deal with it.

    As for challenging norms, you can teach someone to understand, but you can’t force them to accept. But understanding works both ways. It’s the same as any belief. Also, I wasn’t trying to project onto you, I’m sorry. I was just asking you to have a little forgiveness in your heart for the ignorant. I’m really trying hard to understand everything as much as I can.

    And please don’t accuse me of homophobia for just trying to understand. I lost my virginity to another man, enjoyed it, and I’m extremely open about it to everyone (including my religious family) because I have no shame nor do I think it was wrong.

    I only happened to fall in love with a woman later because she is an amazing person and she deserves all the love and loyalty I can give her. She’s my absolute best friend who I have no secrets from. I advocate love in every way, shape, and form.

    I encourage advocation. Just… please try not to trample bystanders in the process.

    And now I must get to bed. My anxiety kept me up looking for a reply, because I’m really not trying to upset you, I’m just trying to make sense of everything. And I guess I also just wanted to talk to someone and I’m honestly enjoying the chat (I’m talkative, if you hadn’t noticed, lol). I also don’t mind if you don’t read this. It is quite long…


  • There’s a point where the expectancy of homophobia becomes a phobia. You start to see it around every corner, take simple comments completely the wrong way, and overall cast judgement before trying to understand meaning. I understand the position you take on this and why you have come to your conclusion, but I don’t believe that that’s the context of the situation. I believe the size of the member in question has everything to do with it.

    There are those out there that are instantly casting judgement on every conversation. The right and wrong meter fires up, and they see what they fear. They then live curled up, restrained, and tortured. They see eyes through every window, feel inferior (or worse, superior), and begin to think something is wrong with either them or everyone around them. They ruin possible relationships and become confrontational. You should live free, without fear, and put the stones down. You’re going to hurt someone who didn’t mean anything bad someday.

    I’m with you in the fight against homophobia and transphobia, but we have to stop lashing out on suspicion. We have to really consider the following: Keeping your mind open and expecting the best in people often opens us to a better life with more opportunities. I like to try and see the best in people. I’ll occasionally become disappointed when those expectations fall, but I’d rather live like that than skipping straight to disappointment without giving others a chance.

    It’s been a weight off my shoulders since I began to think like this. I no longer look through a window of doubt and unease at people when I meet them, I look right into the person themselves. I have seen people flinch or look away when I look them in the eye, because it’s a silent confirmation- it says, I see you, and it scares them sometimes. You might be surprised at how many people in the world go unseen and unheard, even in public situations, and its shocking to them when someone really listens, tries to understand, and reciprocates.

    I went off a little bit, but returning to the comment in question. I don’t believe it was meant in any sort of disregard to any one walk of life. It sounds a bit to me like the commenter was describing their own painful disbelief through a random, nondescript character in a comedic and narrative way. It was in jest and made sense to them, and I can’t see any confrontational evidence in the comment that states otherwise. They did not state the gender of the wizard, they did not state the orientation of the wizard, nor did they state why they took psychological damage.

    We shouldn’t add our own context to the story under assumption and be angry because we believe our assumption is right.

    I’m sorry if I don’t reply to you right away after this. I spent a lot of time and consideration on my reply, and am now way past bedtime. I’m not trying belittle your thoughts and feelings… I’m just trying to explain how I see it the best I can.


  • Eyedust@lemmy.dbzer0.comtomemes@lemmy.worldWho's in charge?
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    6 months ago

    So I’m not the best at this, but this is my best guess (I have no experience in sysadmin, as I’ve only ever been the sole user of my PC and prefer not to network anything).

    Owner #1, smackyboi, has ownership of a file called smutgame.AppImage. This means they can choose who accesses smutgame, if it can execute, if it can be read or written by certain groups, etc.

    Owner #2, luvurealgood, on the system via their own account (or networked computer in the case of server storage) can’t change these settings unless smackyboi says they could, because they’re the owner and can add luvurealgood to the admin group for the file if they want. Smackyboi suddenly writes, sudo chown luvurealgood smutgame.AppImage.

    Now luvurealgood owns that file and can make every change they want to it, including removing smackyboi from accessing it, as they’re no longer the owner. They can lock down the file and forbid it from being executed, etc etc. I believe anyone who is in the admin group of that file can do anything to it as well, except change it’s ownership if its already owned.

    This is just from pieces of info and my tiny experience in Windows sysadmin shenanigans. Someone swoop in and correct me if I got anything wrong.



  • You can get away with it while having some downtime in a village. The bard is making coin in the tavern and the barbarian is drinking in the same place, the priest visits the local chapel, the warlock looks to spend some coin on magic baubles, etc. This also increases the creativity in which you can give your players their next quest.

    But once you’re out adventuring on that quest, you’re a goddamn party. If you don’t want to be a party, then go home and play a single player game.

    Edit: I have had good DMs separate the party themselves though, but we always spend it trying to find each other again.




  • Eyedust@lemmy.dbzer0.comtomemes@lemmy.worldStress
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    6 months ago

    No, you tell them “Guess!”, all excited like you know they’re going to love it. “Just guess! I bet you’ll get it right away.” Then jump on the first guess and congratulate them with a “Surprise!”, even if you hate the answer.