Idk if “little experience” means something in English, but what I meant is non-life changing/threatening. Things that would otherwise go unnoticed.
For me, it was when I stopped drinking acoholic beverages because… I ended up finding it boring, I guess.
I started noticing how low key hostile my environment is towards people who dont drink. People started thinking I was sick, depressed, converted to islam, being snob, etc.
Bartenders started to openly mock me when I asked for a lemonade (they still do) : “We dont do that here”, “Go to a physician if you need that”, “you’re in a bar you know ?”.
I started realizing how hostile my country/region/groups can be to people who dont drink. Never realized that before.
Edit : typo
Finding online communities like reddit and discovering most people aren’t major POS and that I am/was one
And before someone says no surely you just exaggarate I have objective evidence from the past which if I said aloud I would get lynched.
It was suprising to discover online that people aren’t that bad as the people in my ‘hood’ and you don’t usually need all those complex defenses to appear a hunter and not prey. It really changed a lot
Ouch. That one has to hurt. But I hope it was for the best.
It is very tempting to gather pity points or look at me how I changed points tbh which I just done didn’t I ? I guess being simulatenously a victim and slight? abuser isn’t easy to separate these events
That’s what growing is. Don’t be ashamed of that part of your past, but rather be proud you grew enough to recognize it. If at any point in your life you don’t cringe when you think of your old self, something is wrong.