He wakes me at 5am every day because he slams stuff really loud. He doesn’t even have work early he just wake up at 5am and stays home all day.

Should I do revenge on him and slamm stuff at 12 am when I go to sleep

  • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
    141·
    7 days ago

    Don’t escalate, he is home all day and has more time to escalate.

    Talk nicely, make a friend, move are all good options.

  • jordanlund@lemmy.world
    72·
    7 days ago

    Don’t retaliate, it will only escalate. Use your grown up voice and mention the slamming wakes you up.

  • satans_methpipe@lemmy.world
    14·
    7 days ago

    Call the police and make a noise complaint every single morning. Let the owners know you’re doing the same. Give the police the owners contact info.

  • Lit@lemmy.world
    67·
    7 days ago

    Go to bed early ( only psychopaths go to bed late, prowling the streets for their victims ) and wake up at 5am. It is the most peaceful time to get things done.

    Who tf wants to stay up late and be miserable when it’s dark outside

    • Djfok43@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      7 days ago

      Waking up at 5am is so fucking miserable and psychotic , especially when you’re not forced to

      Who tf wants to wake up when it’s dark outside

  • venotic@kbin.melroy.org
    44·
    7 days ago

    Best bet is police reports. Stack enough of them, someone has to do something. if this is apartment related.

  • HappyTimeHarry@lemm.eeEnglish
    43·
    7 days ago

    Invest in a $2 pair of ear plugs, apartments tend to be like that. Most likely the person is not doing it intentionally, or if they are then the best revenge you can get is to tell them how well you selpt in spite of their futile efforts to annoy you.

    • nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      45·
      7 days ago

      that’s a cool solution you just made up and posted on the internet for fun because you’re pretending to be a person

      try sleeping in ear plugs and see how your ear holes feel

      • HappyTimeHarry@lemm.eeEnglish
        5·
        6 days ago

        I dont use plugs any more but i used to, i found a sleep mask that has headphone speakers built in playing an audiobook or white noise is ideal for me.

        They make different kinds, some might be more comfortable than others. I am indeed a real person, who has experience sleeping in very loud environments.

        • nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          22·
          6 days ago

          well i wear ear plugs a lot for work and I can’t do it. plus, your brain raises the perceived volume of sounds after just a few minutes and so while you are preventing damage from loud sounds, the isolation effect isn’t really that significant

        • Djfok43@lemmy.worldOP
          1·
          7 days ago

          What do I have to lose . And it’s not like I have a choice either, I can’t see afford to move I’m trapped here in a cycle of suffering and literal hell

      • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world
        203·
        7 days ago

        First, it won’t stop the problem.

        Second, you stupidly posted about it online meaning it’s a planned thing. He might be accidentally loud. You’re planning harassment. Guess who the cops will arrest.

        He’s a person. Talk to him nicely. He may have no idea at all that he’s bothering people, so don’t come in hot like a crazy person.

        • pezhore@infosec.pub
          12·
          7 days ago

          I had no idea our 40lb Boston Terrier/Beagle mix walking around was so loud for our downstairs neighbors. After they told us, we invested in some rugs to try and dampen the sound.

          Of course, they would get into screaming matches at 3am with each other until the cops were called - then the cops would ring our buzzer because they refused to answer.

          I do not miss apartment living.

        • Djfok43@lemmy.worldOP
          13·
          7 days ago

          No because it’s obvious he’s harassing me. Any time I make the smallest noise he bangs on the wall

  • ScientifficDoggo@lemmy.zipEnglish
    22·
    7 days ago

    What’s your relationship with your neighbor? I’d say try to communicate with them before turning this into one of those stereotypical neighbor feuds.

  • BlameThePeacock@lemmy.caEnglish
    20·
    7 days ago

    What type of neighbor? House, townhouse, apartment?

    What exactly is he banging? Garbage bins, Kitchen Cabinets, Dresser, Closet?

    There are solutions that don’t involve being an asshole back to them in some of those situations.

  • jabathekek@sopuli.xyz
    111·
    7 days ago

    If you rent, get your landlord to talk with them. It’s likely that they simply don’t know how loud they are. Otherwise you could write a nicely worded letter.

    If all diplomatic options are exhausted, then I would hang up some speakers so they’re facing into the wall; then go ham with the heaviest, bassiest songs I have at all times that your local by-laws allow that also overlap with the times they would be sleeping.

    I did this with a particularly shitty neighbour and it apparently solved the issue (though maybe they were finally evicted). They would be up until 3-4 am (sometimes later) literally blasting music and I have to leave for work by 830am; so, I started blasting some dubstep into walls at 8am.

    • Djfok43@lemmy.worldOP
      64·
      7 days ago

      My speakers broke because I am in a third world country and I got jbl speakers from some Romanian website which just broke for some reason and they had a 2 year warranty but apparently they just don’t want to fix them so now I’m poor and can’t buy speakers again why is life so sad