Wish I could whistle but I guess I just gotta practice. Also my friends can do that thing where you can move your pectorals but I can’t do that
Do you go to the gym, or do pushups frequently? If you do, you should manage to do that thing with the pectorals after a while
Hair
Legs. I’m a double amputee, and I miss them.
I would say that’s not really minor
Relatively? Yeah. It’s minor. Most people don’t even consider having legs.
Yeah highly disagree there lol
A loving family
I’m so sorry, right there with ya
My heart goes out to you, sweet stranger. ❤️
As in parents or spouse and kids?
A brain that can produce a stable level of serotonin and not go haywire all because the seasons changed.
That and being neurotypical, my life would be much easier if I didn’t have ADHD
I feel you, although I’m not sure this counts as minor
No allergies. Im allergic to dairy, eggs and most nuts. I’m not lactose intolerant, which I wish I had, because then I could be in the bathroom for a few hours instead of a hospital for a few days. So many things have milk in them, and the few things that don’t put eggs in them too. I can’t eat out.
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A half-decent singing voice.
To illustrate how bad my singing is: our school did a musical every year. One year it was Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat. The music department set up auditions. First they did a speaking audition, after which I was short-listed for Joseph. Then they did the singing audition. I ended up being ‘one of the brothers, the one who doesn’t really sing anything’.
I don’t even want to be an awesome singer, just be able to carry a tune recognisably.
Practice. A lot.
In my teens I wasn’t able to carry a tune at all. Our music teacher marked me as “hopeless” after hearing a me singing a few lines.
This pissed me off royally. I had no desire or illusions of becoming a great singer, but I would not accept being “hopeless”. So I started practicing with simple children’s song melodies and recorded my singing with an old cassette recorder. It was indeed pretty awful at first, but I slowly got better. Then I got my driver’s license and could sing along the songs from the radio and my cassettes while driving alone, it was a big step up from singing quietly in my room.
I also started playing the guitar to get a better understanding of musical theory, which was helpful. After I had learned the basics of playing rhythm guitar firmly I learned to play the piano. I believe that singing the melodies while playing them on the piano was essential to my development, since I could instantly hear if I did not hit the correct note.
By my mid-twenties I could already carry tunes easily and even got a complements about my singing voice. Key changes and modulations were still pretty challenging, but I kept on practising whenever I found the time.
Now in my forties I can repeat a melody correctly after hearing it once or twice and I consider myself a decent singer. I don’t sing karaoke or any solo performances, but I do love singing backup or as part of a group.
If my music teacher hadn’t embarrassed me publicly all those years ago, I most likely would have never put any effort in getting better at singing or learning to play instruments. I started this lifelong project purely out of spite, but it became a major and very dear part of my life. I even owe my marriage to music, while we were still dating my wife confessed to me that she most likely wouldn’t have even noticed me if I hadn’t been playing the guitar at that one summer party. Thankfully I wasn’t too hammered at that time ;)
recorded my singing with an old cassette recorder
Hmm, perhaps this is the key. I sing a lot, in the car, or the shower, or when no-one is around, so I get practice in but I don’t (can’t) hear what I’m singing properly.
It would not hurt to try. Using your phone to record your singing may not be the best idea, the microphone is so small that singing even with normal volume gets the recording easily distorted.
USB-connected microphones are pretty cheap and will perform much better, just hook one to a laptop and use any simple recording software.
And I recommend starting small with children’s songs. “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” with it’s straightforward ascending and descending melody is a great starter, or at least for me it was.
Practice. A lot.
Please, I don’t want my neighbors to kill themselves.
Singing is 10% talent and 90% practice.
You do you, of course, you don’t, 't have to sing. But if you do it you will get better at it.
That is the reason I practiced the first two years in my room at lullaby volume.
An interest in dogs. I really dislike them as far as having to live with one which makes dating literally impossible. Using dating sites over the years I’ve seen probably 80%+ profiles mention loving dogs, needing dogs, stealing your dog, owning all the dogs, some profiles even start with “blah blah dog.”
I hate that there’s such an obsession with dogs and travel… :(
People existing in society in good faith. People who just want the world to be a better place to live, and aren’t willing to shove people down below them in order to get an edge.
I hope you have a good weekend, my friend.
The sad reality is that I’m going to be fine. I’m going to survive the turmoil and probably make money in the process, because I’ve been lucky before now. I worry for people that haven’t been lucky. I worry for people that have been lucky but happen to be the “wrong” race. I worry for my gay friends that are looking at fleeing the country as an easier alternative. I worry for my trans friend that already has fled the country.
The US has always had problems, sure, but nothing like this.
Oh look, a mirror
Sorry, should I be donating more than 20% of my paycheck to charity? Should I be volunteering for more than 12 hours/week?
What are you doing for your neighbors, you dumb cunt?
What the fuck?
I’m saying that your situation appears to be just like mine.
What crawled up your ass and died this evening?
I think people are misunderstanding your comment. There’s a saying “look in the mirror” which is used negatively when someone isn’t being self-aware. People are most likely taking your comment as a play of this idiom and it sounds like you are yelling at someone to be self reflective. It’s miscommunication
I’ve used that phrase many times before, and this is the first time I’ve ever gotten such a bizarre reaction.
100% why I stopped engaging in activism.
You make a mistake and people always assume malice. It was too bad.
The thing that gets people to get out of the house and do things with other people.
Not like a vehicle, or transportation but the other thing
I’m a shut-in and I’ll say it doesn’t help living in a sparse area with only a bike*. I usually just ride on the trail to a very close bridge, sometimes I go to the closest town over and buy a few things from the produce section from the local grocery store and that’s it.
Admittedly, I probably still wouldn’t be very social in a denser place (money, but also other issues).
* I don’t want to drive, though lots of ditches around here and there is no north/south trail. So it is a factor.
Oh I got one of those too i need the thing that gets me out of the house. Like a thing that makes me leave the house to go do
a functioning democracy
Hah, that’s hard to come by for MOST people! I’m not even sure Norway is actually a democracy!
The desire to have sex? Sure would make relationships easier.
I’m aro/ace and sometimes I feel like this. But I guess what I want is just another person to have a connection with. If more people were aro/ace my problem would also be solved. Still I do sometimes wonder what I’m missing out on. Everyone seems to like it, yet I find it yucky. There’s plenty of other things in life to enjoy though, so no biggie
In my case, I just feel like it’s unfair to my girlfriend. I know it’s not my fault, and I’m not obligated to give her something I don’t enjoy myself - but the reality is that something that’s a big part of most relationships is missing from ours, and it’s because of me. We’re in an open relationship, so she doesn’t have to go entirely without, but it’s still not ideal.
I understand this well. Spent a few decades in dysfunctional relationships rooted in my lack of sexual desire. Happily married to another ace woman today, where sex is only ever suggested as part of joke and we’ve never even came close. She is liberating, freeing, incredible and safe.
Yet I still hold a lot of guilt from previous partners who spent time thinking something was wrong with them or I was cheating because I always made “not tonight” excuses for several years straight. It wasn’t fair to either of us, but my lack of introspection, self-honesty and fear of being alone kept us years of strife.
Things are wonderful now, no complaints but GAWD a lot of heart ache could’ve been avoided if I had a *normal" sex drive.
I’m ace in a demi relationship, but I’m NGL, it’s still hard. I’m suuuuper glad sex isn’t the focus of our relationship and we’ve been going strong for a while, but it does also add complexity
Normal vision.
was trying to figure out what the stats are on vision impairment, and found this:
A National Institutes of Health (NIH) study has found that although 94 percent of Americans aged 12 and older have good vision, the remaining six percent, or 14 million, are visually impaired.
So 6% of Americans are visually impaired, and of those, 3/4 can be corrected with glasses.
that is a fairly blunt assessment. ‘Correction’ is not a binary after all.
After cateracts surgery I’ve got 20/80 vision in my better eye. Technically both eyes.
HOWEVER.
I have no useable depth perception. The retina on my left eye is swiss cheesed with holes and scarring from birth defects. My right retina has a major deflection in it and I ‘won’ the lottery in having it detatch post cateracts surgery (a nominally single digit percentage chance of happening) and thus needed further surgeries to correct.
My eye sight is so bad I can only see 15cm in front of me correctly, and I can’t enlist in the army.
Mine is bad due to my genes, but not that bad. Sorry to hear it.
Hey, I can’t enlist in the army! That’s a good thing!
A very good thing, and one that’s getting better with each election, truly.
An inner voice. My wife and son both talk about options and choices like they’ve discussed things with another person.
I have to go with plan A. There is no second thought.
Total aphantasia? Same here, but:
No intrusive thoughts, ever.
No visions of, or reliving, trauma.
No sad-memory sounds or tastes.
No facades, so no energy wasted.
And if you got the SDAM bonus, you can re-discover all your favorite books and movies like you never read or watched them before!
As someone with diagnosed anexity. Constant repetive intrusive thoughts and obsessive reliving of past trauma, I can’t help but be a little jealous.
Apologies. I’m sure you have your own complementary problems to over come. I just can’t help and admire the how green your grass looks
My husband is like you, and also wishes for the absolute silence of my mind. But you’re right about green grass - I wish I could visualize happy memories or even picture the people I love.
OMG. There’s a name for it? I have ALL THAT OTHER STUFF!!!
I’m so happy you posted, I’m going deep dive tomorrow!
Buckle up. You’ll discover we have some great advantages, but you may feel cheated out of some abilities, too. You can DM me if you have questions.
I’m 63. I’m about as buckled as I’m gonna get.
