Edit: I don’t mean someone that will sacrifice their life for yours, more someone who would go out of their way to rush you to the hospital or something

  • DigitalDilemma@lemmy.ml
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    “Good” or “trust my life with”? The two can be mutually exclusive. If I was in the wrong, would a good person defend me?

    I’ve met a few people with genuinely good morals in my life. They do exist and are almost incorruptible. Most people are flexible in that we can make justifications for almost anything.

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    Im 58, I’ve et 4 people in my life I’d classify as “good”. Im with one and I’m not one.

    All 4 are women, which gives me pause as a guy.

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    There are a lot of people who would rush me to the hospital but also voted to take away my rights and worse. I don’t know if I believe in good people these days.

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    just a few and that’s ok. people will make good and bad things and there are a few with whom you’ll really get along with. keep them close.

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    I think the number is a lot higher and the barrier of trust a lot lower than people think.

    If you come across a vehicle accident and you are able to help someone generally people don’t even think and just take action to save another persons life.

    In reactionary scenarios where direct intervention saves someone’s life, people help a lot more than you’d think.

    As a species we generally have a bypass in our brains that makes us want to help others in desperate need.

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    Having actually been rushed to hospital when I was a kid by my friends after a big accident on my bike I would say the number is higher than you might think. They even walked by bike back home, which considering it was miles from home was pretty mad for teenagers.

    I would say at least 20 people I know who are close to me either have done something I would consider above and beyond for me already or I know for sure would do so. Thats not counting any relatives.

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    Until recently I would have said 0%, but probably 95% of my current friends would rush me to a hospital (if it was physically possible) the other 5% are perpetually busy and would probably find someone who could.

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    I have trusted humans in the past. They have always failed me. Humans are not to be trusted. Just look at the state of the terrarium we live in.

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    Good? Many The other is completely different thing independent of being ‘a good person’

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    I know way more people who would at least attempt to save my life in an emergency than I think are genuinely good people. But I do actually think that’s part of identifying a decent person. Empathizing with someone suffering in front of you and wanting to help is such a low standard for empathy that even untrained animals sometimes pass this bar. Empathizing with living things more broadly and outside of your personal bubble is a task that’s apparently too much to ask of most people I’ve met. Good way to gauge this is to get someone talking for a bit about the unhoused population of their hometown.

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      I think animals are much more capable of empathy than the average person

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    Percentage is an odd way to measure it. I’m sure I’ve met thousands of people but would know scores who would rush me to hospital if I needed it as per your example. Still a pretty small percentage.

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    I designate all folks as good folks. Even with the whole ‘every action is inherently selfish’ worldview that I have. I think most anyone close to me, and anyone nearby with free time would rush me to the hospital.

    Though, I think leaving me to die is fair and wouldn’t make someone a bad person. I am only the center of my universe.

    I’d imagine that that point of designating good and bad people is to decide where to put your effort. Who to try and support. Maybe to decide who to keep in your life. I’d say that can be done just fine without labeling folks as “bad people”.

    I worry folks will dehumanize and become a bit too negligent of the experiences of “bad people”. “Bad people” just means “contradictory and offensive culture” in most cases.

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    0%

    I don’t think it’s wise to ever trust another person 100%. You should be aware that anyone could turn on you in the correct situation with the correct pressures.

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      You’re right, but sometimes you need someone to hold the other end of the rope when you lower yourself over a cliff.

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            How? Anyone you know could betray you at any moment for various reasons. Simply because it’s unlikely doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

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              and your heart could fail at any moment randomly. doesnt make it rational to design your whole life around it. Yes people can betray your trust, but again and again and again it’s been shown that people dont betray eachother far far more often than they do. Also, if you’re big on Logic™️, lying only works if the vast majority of communication is truthful.

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                  sure, im not saying blindly trust people in all situations. but distrust should be exceptional, not normal.